Sex therapists are licensed mental health professionals who use talk therapy to address the emotional and psychological aspects of sexual issues, helping individuals and couples with various concerns like low desire, pain during sex, and erectile dysfunction. They create a safe, confidential space for clients to explore their sexual history, beliefs, and concerns, using evidence-based techniques like mindfulness and couples communication. While they may assign at-home exercises to improve intimacy, they do not engage in physical contact or treat medical conditions. Their goal is to enhance overall well-being by addressing the crucial link between mental, emotional, and sexual health.

Betrayal blindness, a psychological phenomenon where individuals fail to acknowledge clear evidence of their partner's infidelity, stems from a deep-seated need to protect oneself from emotional and psychological devastation. This occurs when dependence, past trauma, or emotional vulnerability overrides the ability to process betrayal. The mind, acting as a protector, distorts reality to maintain stability, especially when acknowledging the betrayal threatens one's sense of self or livelihood. Healing involves creating a safe environment, confronting the betrayal, and strengthening one's sense of authenticity. While betrayal blindness can temporarily stabilize toxic relationships, it comes at the cost of self-integrity. Ultimately, the decision to stay or leave rests with the individual, and therapy focuses on empowering them to make choices aligned with their needs and well-being.

Jack Morin's "Erotic Equation" (Attraction + Obstacles = Excitement) explains why forbidden fruit often tastes sweetest. We're inherently drawn to what's just out of reach, whether it's a coveted promotion, a luxurious lifestyle, or a former partner now involved with someone else. This principle extends to relationships: distance, mystery, or even a hint of competition can heighten desire. To reignite a stale spark, couples can introduce healthy obstacles, drawing from Morin's "Cornerstones of Eroticism"—longing and anticipation, violating prohibitions, searching for power, and overcoming ambivalence. Sex therapy explores these dynamics, helping partners identify their attractions and create engaging obstacles to reignite excitement. By understanding and applying this equation, couples can cultivate a dynamic and fulfilling connection.

Sexuality, a vital aspect of human connection and well-being, is often stigmatized, yet integral to our existence. Sex therapy addresses internalized societal messages about sex and combats distractions that hinder pleasure, such as intrusive thoughts during intimacy. Mindfulness emerges as a crucial tool, promoting present-moment awareness and non-judgmental observation of sensations, essential for sexual awakening. By refocusing on the physical and emotional experiences of the "now," individuals can overcome barriers to desire and satisfaction, even in cases of low sexual desire, chronic pain, or post-cancer treatment sexual challenges. Mindfulness creates space for intimacy and connection by clearing mental clutter, fostering a deeper, more fulfilling sexual experience.