Existential Consulting on Desire, Intimacy, and Sexual Meaning

New York

Many people who search for sex therapy in New York are not seeking techniques or diagnoses. Desire may feel complicated, conflicted, or strangely inaccessible. Intimacy may feel charged, effortful, or difficult to sustain. You may be thoughtful, successful, and self aware, yet sense that something essential in your sexual or intimate life no longer feels coherent or alive.

I offer existential consulting for individuals in New York who want to explore the meaning of desire and intimacy rather than pursue clinical treatment.

This work begins from the understanding that shifts in sexual experience are rarely random. They often reflect deeper questions of identity, agency, freedom, belonging, and recognition. Desire responds to how we live, how we relate, and how we locate ourselves in the world.

A Depth-Oriented Orientation

Existential consulting is a reflective, interpretive process. It is not skills based, performance focused, or diagnostic. Sexual experience is approached as psychologically and philosophically meaningful rather than as a problem to be corrected.

Rather than asking how to restore desire, we ask what desire is responding to.

In our work, we may explore:

how desire relates to autonomy, attachment, and selfhood
how vigilance, control, or self monitoring interfere with intimacy
how sexual withdrawal can function as protection rather than dysfunction
how wanting and being wanted shape one’s sense of reality, worth, and selfhood

Rather than pathologizing desire, it is treated as meaningful.
Rather than prescribing solutions, we listen for what has been silenced.

How This Differs From Sex Therapy

Many people arrive here after searching for sex therapy or intimacy focused therapy and finding that technique driven or solution focused approaches did not address what felt most essential.

While my background is in clinical sexology and existential psychotherapy, the work I offer to individuals in New York is consultative rather than therapeutic. It does not involve diagnosis, treatment of mental health conditions, or the practice of psychotherapy as defined by state licensure laws.

The stance remains depth oriented, careful, and grounded in serious psychological thought.

Who This Work Is For

This work is best suited for individuals who are:

psychologically minded and reflective
interested in depth rather than quick solutions
able to tolerate ambiguity and complexity
curious about meaning, authorship, and coherence

It is often well suited for people who sense that something important is unfolding in their intimate life and do not want to reduce it to pathology.

About My Work

My background is in clinical sexology and existential psychotherapy. My work integrates existential philosophy, phenomenology, mindfulness, and depth psychology.

I work via secure telehealth with individuals located in New York State.

Beginning the Work

If you are drawn to a reflective, meaning oriented exploration of desire and intimacy, you are welcome to reach out.

Initial conversations are designed to assess fit. Discernment is part of the work, not a barrier to it.

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Existential consulting is not psychotherapy and does not involve diagnosis or treatment of mental health conditions.